Re: Daughtersofmoms withBREASTCANCER Completely Saddened

At first my mom fretted so much about losing her hair. She didn't even want my dad to see her like that. However, after a few months she stopped wearing the hats at home and relaxed. She now allows us all to see us without her hats or wigs. She still wears a hat or wig in public but is at least comfortable with her loved ones not wearing the restrictive hot head coverings. Maybe your mom will relax a little over time as well. My mom's hair fell out twice but now it seems to be growing back and staying, it is kind of a white thin wispy hair but it is hair and she is happy with it.
Tiffany

R RH <rrhendrick@yahoo.com> wrote:
The worries about the clothes and hair is usually her bickering at me...I guess I missed her being that way. I am sure she will bounce back soon.

Pam, I am sure you are on about the same ride I am on as well.

Hugs and Thanks!

RRH

Pamela VanLaningham <danishdonut02@yahoo.com> wrote:
Please call your mom soon, tell her that you are
scared about what is going on as you are afraid of
losing her.
my mom was diagnosed with stage 3 bc as it had not
metasized. has gone thru 9 months of chemo, then the
masectmy in Feb 08, she now os going thru another 12
weeks of chemo and then radiation. Oh believe me my
mom and I argue A LOT especially about the house
cleaning, she has OCD. I just tell her it is clean and
to accept it, yes I do clean.
Just tell her that you are afraid, she may open up to
you. Don't worry about her clothes or hair. let her do
what is comfortable and accept.

Pam
--- R RH <rrhendrick@yahoo.com> wrote:

> Hi all,
>
> I have not posted about myself truly since I
> joined the group and tonight is just one of those
> nights that I feel as if I am being selfish. I am
> so sad that my mom is not my old mom. In essence, I
> miss her terribly and we only just started this
> fight.
>
> To refresh all, my mom was dx with BC on 1/22/08
> and we are at the halfway point with 8 cycles of
> chemo bi weekly...mom is Stage IIIC and told she is
> terminal...
>
> Some of the most real feelings hit me and they are
> really hard to shake. I am sure some of you can
> relate to a mom that would fuss at you for some of
> the little things, bicker with you over your outfit
> or hair, and or even listen to you rant about your
> problems...I miss it. I feel that my issues are
> nothing compared to the fight she is going through,
> but I miss the one person that I told everything
> too. I feel like I am balancing what I say as to
> not upset her more if my own little life quirks.
> Unfortunately I just realized just how close I was
> to her this week and it has weighed me down
> tremendously.
>
> I am sure this will pass as all does, but I need
> your posts to get me through this week...
>
> RRH
>
>
>
>
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Pamela

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