Re: Daughtersofmoms withBREASTCANCER It's Megan again.

Hi Megan!! I am very sory to hear about your mom's passing. You have my deepest sympathy. I can understand some of the things you are feeling as when my mom passed, I had that lonely feeling like I was all alone in the world with out her in it.!! But I also felt guilty as I had my husband, my children,my grandchildren and even two brothers still here with me and I couldn't understand why I felt so very alone. The more I tried to explain that lonely feeling the worse I felt as I knew they were all wanting me to be greatful they were here for me. I was grateful but it still felt like someone had put me on a desert island and left me for good.  Grief is a very personal thing and I really believe we each grieve in our own way!! I couldn't understand why I felt like I did, I figured it must be because of the close mother-daughter bond that women have for each other.  It does ease off as time goes by But don't feel quilty for your grief. Just let
time take you into each new day and try to remember all the wonderful things about your mom and how she would want you to be able  to go on with your life until you meet her again in Heaven.!!!May GOD bless and keep you.!!!  Melissy

--- On Thu, 5/29/08, Megan <methomas642@yahoo.com> wrote:

From: Megan <methomas642@yahoo.com>
Subject: Re: Daughtersofmoms withBREASTCANCER It's Megan again.
To: daughtersofmomswithbreastcancer@yahoogroups.com
Date: Thursday, May 29, 2008, 3:13 PM

My goodness, Megan, I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. I've never experienced such a loss, but I know it never actually goes away, it just stops hurting as badly. I hope you can feel better and your heart heals. Where do you live?

Megan

MeGaN <megan2007_4208@ yahoo.com> wrote:
Well today was the day! I just got done opening and looking at the
box that holds my mothers cremation remains. I had to open it and
look at her, no matter how difficult it would have been. How could I
not? This whole death thing is really creeping me out. Even though my
mother is passed away, she is still with me in my heart and soul. Her
remains is only her shell as my aunt chooses to look at it. But her
body is all I've ever known. I don't understand how to change the way
I look at it, as now her spirit is in Heaven. It doesn't all add up
to me! LOL.

I feel so helpless and useless right now. Plus to top it all off I
feel lonesome. I don't know what to think, and even if it all makes
since the way I'm looking at things. This is all sooo confusing. All
I know is that I miss my mothers laugh and smile and warmth when she
hugs me and kisses me. I miss looking into her beautiful green eyes
and saying good-night to her. Things wont be the same without her.
Please someone respond to my message. I need some words of
encouragement. And I need some friends. I have none, literally. I
spend too much time stuck inside the dang house, because when I open
the front door, I'm hyperventilating and wanting to come back inside
where I know everything is safe. And nobody can take anything away
from me or hurt me.

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