Re: Daughtersofmoms withBREASTCANCER Completely Saddened

Good morning, I am sorry you are having to deal with this also. My mom is a stage 4, also terminal. She has been fighting strong for about a year now and is doing very well considering. Mom is actually still able to work about 30-35 hours per week (except chemo week) and do a lot of things with her friends when she isn't suffering from the side effects of chemo. At first I felt guilty about talking about myself and complaining about a cold or anything like that. I still feel a little guilty but realized my mom wants to know, she wants us to treat her as a normal person and not make her feel different. She asks me how I am doing and we are able to talk the same as we used to for the most part. I dread the day the cancer takes my mom over and that all ends but for now I try to enjoy each and every day with her. I can't see her everyday but we talk on the phone or email like we always have and try to visit at least once a week (she lives an hour away from us). Try not
to dwell on the bad, make plans, talk to your mom, feel her out and see what she is still able to do with you. I am sure she will appreciate you helping her keep her mind off of her fears and being there as a shoulder to cry on when she needs it.

Great big cyber hugs!
Tiffany

R RH <rrhendrick@yahoo.com> wrote:
Hi all,

I have not posted about myself truly since I joined the group and tonight is just one of those nights that I feel as if I am being selfish. I am so sad that my mom is not my old mom. In essence, I miss her terribly and we only just started this fight.

To refresh all, my mom was dx with BC on 1/22/08 and we are at the halfway point with 8 cycles of chemo bi weekly...mom is Stage IIIC and told she is terminal...

Some of the most real feelings hit me and they are really hard to shake. I am sure some of you can relate to a mom that would fuss at you for some of the little things, bicker with you over your outfit or hair, and or even listen to you rant about your problems...I miss it. I feel that my issues are nothing compared to the fight she is going through, but I miss the one person that I told everything too. I feel like I am balancing what I say as to not upset her more if my own little life quirks. Unfortunately I just realized just how close I was to her this week and it has weighed me down tremendously.

I am sure this will pass as all does, but I need your posts to get me through this week...

RRH

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