I don't know if you went through this but everything seems to set me off. For instance, I was fighting with my bedroom window (meaning I wasn't smart enough to figure out that you have to pull it out to get the top one up...lol) and I just bursted out crying. Just little things that are not a big deal just defeats me. I haven't seen my mother cry once and yet she's the one going through it, she says it hasn't hit her yet but it was a slap in the face to me. When she got the call for her 2nd mamogram, I was the one saying "it's no big deal mom, you had a cyst removed before, that's what this is going to be" etc. I was actually convinced that is was absolutely nothing, I was so positive. And so when she told me, I was so taken aback, that I don't think I've stopped crying since.....lol (I try to laugh at myself for being such a baby and sometimes it actually works) But anyway, again, Thanks for the email. You really don't know how much it meant to me
Jennifer
Lesley <downboyrecords@yahoo.com> wrote:
Hi Jennifer, my heart goes out to you (and all on this group)...
My mother was diagnosed in January 07 with stage 4 breast cancer. I couldn't stop crying for at least 2 weeks, I walked until I was lost in the woods near my house, I prayed and yelled and rebuked God, how could he do this to us. What I found is that, having mourned the eventual loss of my mother, and in spite of what the rest of the family said, I am now the one who can take both good news and bad news calmly, I am the one who is strong for her, I am the one who finds time to be with her and listen to stories and remember the good times we had in the past. (There weren't as many good times in the past as I would hope, but that is what therapy is for...)
So my advice is cry your heart out right now, and then be there for her when she needs you as she surely will. Since she is such a good person, you have much that you can share with her when she's hurting, how she's been so important to you, how much her goodness and gentleness mean to you, things like that. And inform yourself on treatments & medicines, there are some fantastic books on nutrition out there, that was huge for my mom, just getting her to understand that what she puts in her body has a lot to do with how good she feels, that was a struggle....especially the bottled water.
Also, don't read or listen to statistics, they mean nothing when it comes to an individual. My mom has astounded her oncologist with how well she has done, and I'm sure her strong faith and having people praying for has something to do with it, but once she had finished radiation treatments and the resultant side effects (she was ready to die at that point), she went on with her life. Despite her pain, she plays golf several times a week and is taking a cruise to Alaska (she's always wanted to) in August. I'm very proud of how she has taken the initiative to live her life to the fullest, and I tell her that a lot.
There are a lot of ups and downs, but having mourned this happening to your mom, they will seem like small hills and valleys, not the rocky mountains. Best to you and your family, and I will keep you in my prayers.
Lesley
Jennifer <j_gunther@yahoo.com> wrote:
I joined this group yesterday. My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer
just this past week. I've been doing nothing but crying the whole time.
She's 60 and has never had a chance to do right. Badluck follows her
everywhere. It would be different if she were this evil person but she
is the most kindest, gentlest, would do anything for anyone type of
person. She's already had 3 different surgeries in a year and now this.
I feel so helpless. I often lie in bed at night and wish it were me
instead of her. Just one less thing to take from her injured body. I
honestly do not understand how one person could be given so many
injuries and some people just fly through life. It just baffles me. I
didn't sign up for sympathy, I just wanted to see who else was out
there maybe going through the same thing. I feel so alone and I know
there are millions out there with this ugly disease. I just wanted to I
guess get it off my chest.
Thanks
Lesley
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