Cancer Articles: Re: Daughtersofmoms withBREASTCANCER New here / Need prayers

You and your family will bein my prayers.. please let
us know about the outcome...
Big Hug
Sabrina
--- Lesley <downboyrecords@yahoo.com> wrote:

> Thanks, Eliza. It was good to see mom resting
> today, and no CNN...she doesn't even watch TV, not
> to mention TV news. It provided a very non-relaxing
> atmosphere, in addition to all the people. She
> hasn't had internet in the room, so I've been
> suggesting people send cards.
>
> And......
>
> Prayers and such are most welcome right now, I
> haven't wanted to ask for anything since I haven't
> felt like I can give back at the moment, but...this
> is the situation. Mom went in at 4pm for a risky
> operation to repair the operation they did last
> week. The cancer on her spine devoured the disc
> that they fused last week, in less than a week. If
> she makes it through this operation, and I have to
> believe she will, she will go in tomorrow
> morning for the operation to cement the back of her
> spine so that at least her spinal cord will not be
> under so much pressure when discs fail. The surgeon
> was very clear that she may not make it through. If
> she does, the prognosis is 6-12 months. He has been
> pushing chemo, she refuses, but today said he didn't
> think chemo would get her more than a couple of
> months at the most. My dad is devastated and I've
> seen him cry only a couple of times in my life,
> today he got choked up several times. Of
> course, we are all devastated but she is his high
> school sweetheart and they've been married 49
> years. Tomorrow is her 68th birthday. He broke
> down while trying to tell her the prognosis, which
> is stupid since the oncologist should have
> been honest with her to begin with. Since I had a
> very sad day yesterday, somehow I took over and
> explained very clearly what the options were, the
> risks, and the reality of the future and what she
> had to do. If she makes it through all of this, she
> will at least have a chance of regaining use of her
> arms, and it will make the paralysis aspect less
> likely. If she can handle radiation, it will slow
> the growth.
>
> I'll probably never get the image of her face out of
> my mind, when she stared straight ahead and without
> expression, listening. I know she is sad,
> and depressed, but she would never admit it, and she
> would never let herself cry.
>
> So....if everyone could keep Patty & Jerry in your
> prayers tonight and tomorrow, I'd appreciate it.
> I'd like to have even a couple of months more....
>
>
> Lesley
>
> "A soul ought to have something to say to the
> universe if it's going to be immortal."
> Sheri S. Tepper
>
>
> "A nation that continues year after year to spend
> more money on military defense than on programs of
> social uplift is approaching spiritual doom."
> Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
>
> --- On Tue, 9/2/08, Eliza <molinare13@yahoo.com>
> wrote:
>
> From: Eliza <molinare13@yahoo.com>
> Subject: Re: Daughtersofmoms withBREASTCANCER New
> here
> To: daughtersofmomswithbreastcancer@yahoogroups.com
> Date: Tuesday, September 2, 2008, 10:35 AM
>
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> Hey Lesley. I know how the visitors thing can be.
> It's hard to tell people to stay away when everyone
> wants to do well wishing. We had to do that, I felt
> like my mom was in so much pain, and every second of
> rest made a difference, especially when they are
> coming in your room all the time to take my mom from
> one procedure to the next. It made it easier to
> tell them when my mom asked me to tell them she
> would prefer no visitors until she is feeling a
> little more up to it. I think the hardest part was
> keeping my daughter away, her only grandchild. It
> was hard but I know it was for the best. I
> eventually brought her to say hi two days before we
> were discharged.
>
> Even with all of the internet age...letters and
> cards are what cheered my mom up the most, she could
> read them at her leisure when she felt up to it, and
> read them again and again. Pictures made it even
> better.
>
> Keep me updated, always here for ya.
> Eliza
>
> --- On Mon, 9/1/08, Lesley <downboyrecords@
> yahoo.com> wrote:
>
> From: Lesley <downboyrecords@ yahoo.com>
> Subject: Re: Daughtersofmoms withBREASTCANCER New
> here
> To: daughtersofmomswith breastcancer@ yahoogroups.
> com
> Date: Monday, September 1, 2008, 10:01 AM
>
> I'm so glad your mom is at home, and surrounded by
> love. That makes a huge difference. My mom got so
> tired yesterday, both her brothers and their wives
> came by, plus my nephew and his fiance, then my
> sister and I and my dad. We were all there at the
> same time for about 15 minutes, but her family
> stayed for 4 hrs or so and mom got really, really
> tired. I know she will look better today, but then
> again, her grandaughter brought down her kid, I'm
> not sure anyone knew she was coming but she got into
> town about 3:30 this morning. I am going to let mom
> rest today, even though I'd like to see her
> great-grandaughter, maybe they will take pictures.
> She's only 2 days out of ICU, and if she gets better
> soon, will have the second operation this week....
>
> Thoughts, prayers and hugs your way....
>
> Lesley
>
> "A soul ought to have something to say to the
> universe if it's going to be immortal."
> Sheri S. Tepper
>
>
> "A nation that continues year after year to spend
> more money on military defense than on programs of
> social uplift is approaching spiritual doom."
> Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
>
> --- On Fri, 8/29/08, Eliza <molinare13@ yahoo. com>
> wrote:
>
> From: Eliza <molinare13@ yahoo. com>
> Subject: Re: Daughtersofmoms withBREASTCANCER New
> here
> To: daughtersofmomswith breastcancer@ yahoogroups.
> com
> Date: Friday, August 29, 2008, 12:02 AM
>
> Thank you so much!! My mom's cancer has been
> diagnosed as stage IV, basically what they have told
> us is that it is not cureable, but can be
> controlled. We actually just came home today
> (Yay!!) from a week and a half hospital stay. She
> went in for being jaudiced and ended up having a
> stent to help her liver do the job that it needed to
> do, because a tumor was blocking it. I can't say
> how thankful I am to have her home!! She actually
> came to stay with my husband, my 18mo old daughter
> and myself. My hubby is actually a stay at home dad
> and was open hearted and ready to go when I asked
> him if he would mind if she stayed with us, because
> between the two of us she would have 24 hour care.
> I about burst into tears when I asked him if he
> would, fearful that he would say no...they actually
> have a wonderful relationship, but I know it's alot
> to ask, doing personal things for someone that you
> never thought you would be doing those things for.
> He has
> been so wonderful through all of this.
> It has been hard. I'm sure like many we all have to
> work. I work full time, am expecting another baby
> early december, have my toddler at home and also
> have a father who has parkinson's. My life is a
> whirlwind right now, but I can only imagine how my
> mother feels. She cried when we brought her inside
> the door to our house. I thought it was because the
> wheelchair was bumpy, but it was because she was so
> happy and so humbled to be home. A whole new view
> on being walked across the threshold so to speak.
> Thank you so much for your kind words. I know being
> in the hospital can be exhausting. Love and prayers
> to you and your mommy.
>
> --- On Thu, 8/28/08, Lesley <downboyrecords@
> yahoo.com> wrote:
>
> From: Lesley <downboyrecords@ yahoo.com>
> Subject: Re: Daughtersofmoms withBREASTCANCER New
> here
> To: daughtersofmomswith breastcancer@ yahoogroups.
> com
> Date: Thursday, August 28, 2008, 8:02 PM
>
> Hi Eliza-
>
>
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