Tiffany
SABRINA LANCE <sabydl@yahoo.com> wrote:
Hi
I can somewhat relate to your story... My mother was
diagnosed back in 2000 and was told that she had a
very agressive cancer and not expected to live long. I
was with my family in the Philippines becasue of my
husband job. When I heard the news I left with my
kids placed them in school and helped my mom out for
4 months . She maid a full recovery after chemo and
radiation. However in 2006 she was diagnosed with
brain cancer but they successfully removed the tumor
and now she has it in the neck and chest area. What I
have done since the recurrence is spent the entire
summers helping her. Finally this year, after 9 years
of living overseas we deceided it was time to move
back home so that I can help my mother and spend time
with her.
I can understand how you feel being far away and not
spending time with her or helping out. I have
struggled these past years where I have no sense of
peace. What you need to do is what your heart tells
you to do.. It s aful to live with regrets... have you
thought about taking a semester off?
Keep in touch with us and if you ever need to vent
feel free to contact me. Good Luck and you are in my
thoughts
Sabrina
--- ixheartxstitch <ixheartxstitch@yahoo.com> wrote:
> Hello everyone,
>
> So I was originally a member of this group in early
> 2006, when my mom
> was first diagnosed with breast cancer. That same
> year my mom
> finished up her treatments, and had surgery to
> remove what was left of
> the cancer. A year later, in late 2007, my mom
> suffered from severe
> breathing problems which we later discovered was a
> result of her
> breast cancer spreading to her lungs. And recently,
> I discovered that
> her doctors had informed her that her cancer spread
> to her brain.
> And, now I find myself back in this group seeking
> advice.
>
> While the news that my mom's cancer had returned was
> devastating, it
> hurt even more receiving the news on the phone. You
> see, I attend a
> college approx. 400 miles away from home. And I was
> wondering if there
> is any one out there in a similar situation? I feel
> guilty for being
> at school while my family struggles to pick up the
> pieces at home, and
> while my mom suffers through her cancer treatments.
> My parents want
> my to stay in school and not worry (which is why it
> took them a month
> to tell me that her cancer had spread to her brain).
> While, I go home
> a lot (I think I've spent about $2,000 on plane
> tickets this past
> year), I know that I shouldn't have spent all that
> money just for
> flights. I'm in this weird situation where I want
> to be at school
> because I'm at my dream school and have so many
> opportunities, but I
> don't want to be at school because the situation I'm
> in is so
> paralyzing that it's affecting my school work,
> paticipation in clubs
> and activities, etc. I'm basically tearing myself up
> trying to figure
> out what my priorities are. If there's anyone out
> there who can
> relate, what did you do? Did you take some time off
> school? I know
> this sounds kinda selfish, but did you feel like you
> put your dreams
> on hold?
>
> I don't know... I'm turning 20 this year, and I
> feel like I'm at this
> prime time in my life with school and everything so
> I should take full
> advantage of my college experience and being such a
> large, diverse
> city. But at the same time, I love my family and it
> kills me to watch
> my dad work 10 hour days just so he could get one
> day off to take my
> mom to her treatments, then having to do all the
> groceries and
> housework, AND its crazy because my relatives are
> also helping out by
> taking my mom to doctor appointments, picking up my
> younger sibling
> from school, etc. Plus, I want to spend as much
> time as I can with my
> mom because I really don't know how long she has.
>
> Sorry, its such a long post. I had a lot on my
> mind.
>
>
> =)
>
>
>
>
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