after a 2 1/2 year battle. She meant the world to me and it has been so
tough. It eventually did spread to her brain and then finally her liver.
From the breast it spread to her bones and was in remission for a little
while. I am not trying to be gloomy, I just wish someone had been 100%
upfront with me on how fast cancer does come back. Once the cancer has
spread to the bloodstream, it never goes away. Some live longer than others,
some not as lucky. They can¹t know who will fall into that category. Take
for example my Mom¹s neighbor. This lady is much older and her cancer is all
over her body. But, she responds well to treatment so she is still living.
My mom was not in that category. I lived with false hope for a long time and
just recently (like a month before she died) accepted the fact that she
would not make it. Then she went downhill so fast that I hardly had time to
catch my breath.
I just had a baby when she was diagonsed with the stage 4 kind. So, it look
a lot of sacrifice driving back and forth and such to spend time with her. I
had a 6 week old in her hospital room while watching her receive chemo! I
wanted to be involved in her care and doctor visits. My brother was 3 states
away. He moved immediately to NC and lived with me, my husband and baby! He
dropped everything to be near her. This went on for 2 years. Luckily, we
were within a 2 hour drive at that point so I was able to see her often. I
guess my point is that you will NEVER get that time back. I¹m not telling
you to drop school but if you feel in your heart that you should, then do
it. I sacrificed so much of my own life and time to be with her. I missed so
many holidays with my own family so I could be in her hospital room.
Watching her die, I felt peace that I did all I could do. That is the only
thing that keeps me and my brother going. We fought as hard as she did. And,
my Mom was like so many. She didn¹t want us to give up our time and she
didn¹t want us to worry. But, you can¹t help it! Sabrina is right, you don¹t
want to live with regrets. I will always cherish those times with her. And,
they were not always easy. Most of it she was sick and depressed. Plus, when
it gets in their brain, the personality changes so much. Mom eventually got
like a vegetable. She couldn¹t communicate or feed herself. This was close
to the end. Again, I am not trying to scare you and I¹m sorry if I am. I
hope you make the right decision for you.
Shana
On 6/5/08 12:44 PM, "Tiffany Sierra" <sierragirls3@sbcglobal.net> wrote:
>
>
>
> This is exactly what I am scared of because my mom is considered in
> "remission" right now. There has to be some test or something they can do to
> prevent these recurrences from happening right!? I am so worried. I want to
> be so happy for my mom but this is what I am worried about, it taking back
> over and spreading so quickly. I hate sitting by helpless and waiting for the
> floor to drop so to speak.
> Tiffany
>
> SABRINA LANCE <sabydl@yahoo.com <mailto:sabydl%40yahoo.com> > wrote:
> Hi
> I can somewhat relate to your story... My mother was
> diagnosed back in 2000 and was told that she had a
> very agressive cancer and not expected to live long. I
> was with my family in the Philippines becasue of my
> husband job. When I heard the news I left with my
> kids placed them in school and helped my mom out for
> 4 months . She maid a full recovery after chemo and
> radiation. However in 2006 she was diagnosed with
> brain cancer but they successfully removed the tumor
> and now she has it in the neck and chest area. What I
> have done since the recurrence is spent the entire
> summers helping her. Finally this year, after 9 years
> of living overseas we deceided it was time to move
> back home so that I can help my mother and spend time
> with her.
> I can understand how you feel being far away and not
> spending time with her or helping out. I have
> struggled these past years where I have no sense of
> peace. What you need to do is what your heart tells
> you to do.. It s aful to live with regrets... have you
> thought about taking a semester off?
> Keep in touch with us and if you ever need to vent
> feel free to contact me. Good Luck and you are in my
> thoughts
> Sabrina
> --- ixheartxstitch <ixheartxstitch@yahoo.com
> <mailto:ixheartxstitch%40yahoo.com> > wrote:
>
>> > Hello everyone,
>> >
>> > So I was originally a member of this group in early
>> > 2006, when my mom
>> > was first diagnosed with breast cancer. That same
>> > year my mom
>> > finished up her treatments, and had surgery to
>> > remove what was left of
>> > the cancer. A year later, in late 2007, my mom
>> > suffered from severe
>> > breathing problems which we later discovered was a
>> > result of her
>> > breast cancer spreading to her lungs. And recently,
>> > I discovered that
>> > her doctors had informed her that her cancer spread
>> > to her brain.
>> > And, now I find myself back in this group seeking
>> > advice.
>> >
>> > While the news that my mom's cancer had returned was
>> > devastating, it
>> > hurt even more receiving the news on the phone. You
>> > see, I attend a
>> > college approx. 400 miles away from home. And I was
>> > wondering if there
>> > is any one out there in a similar situation? I feel
>> > guilty for being
>> > at school while my family struggles to pick up the
>> > pieces at home, and
>> > while my mom suffers through her cancer treatments.
>> > My parents want
>> > my to stay in school and not worry (which is why it
>> > took them a month
>> > to tell me that her cancer had spread to her brain).
>> > While, I go home
>> > a lot (I think I've spent about $2,000 on plane
>> > tickets this past
>> > year), I know that I shouldn't have spent all that
>> > money just for
>> > flights. I'm in this weird situation where I want
>> > to be at school
>> > because I'm at my dream school and have so many
>> > opportunities, but I
>> > don't want to be at school because the situation I'm
>> > in is so
>> > paralyzing that it's affecting my school work,
>> > paticipation in clubs
>> > and activities, etc. I'm basically tearing myself up
>> > trying to figure
>> > out what my priorities are. If there's anyone out
>> > there who can
>> > relate, what did you do? Did you take some time off
>> > school? I know
>> > this sounds kinda selfish, but did you feel like you
>> > put your dreams
>> > on hold?
>> >
>> > I don't know... I'm turning 20 this year, and I
>> > feel like I'm at this
>> > prime time in my life with school and everything so
>> > I should take full
>> > advantage of my college experience and being such a
>> > large, diverse
>> > city. But at the same time, I love my family and it
>> > kills me to watch
>> > my dad work 10 hour days just so he could get one
>> > day off to take my
>> > mom to her treatments, then having to do all the
>> > groceries and
>> > housework, AND its crazy because my relatives are
>> > also helping out by
>> > taking my mom to doctor appointments, picking up my
>> > younger sibling
>> > from school, etc. Plus, I want to spend as much
>> > time as I can with my
>> > mom because I really don't know how long she has.
>> >
>> > Sorry, its such a long post. I had a lot on my
>> > mind.
>> >
>> >
>> > =)
>> >
>> >
>> >
>> >
>
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