I lost my Mom in February after a 3 year battle that began in the breast and
eventually spread to her bones and then finally brain and liver. All I can
tell you is to SPEND TIME with her and love on her like you have never done.
My Mom¹s mind was gone toward the end (about 3 or 4 weeks) but she knew in
her heart I was there. I was with her when she took her last breath...the
most painful thing I could ever imagine but very peaceful because she was
ready to let go of the pain. I think every day, why her, why now (I am 31,
she was 55), I¹m was so not ready to say goodbye. My Mom fought it for so
long and lived in tremendous pain and I finally had to say ³Mom, it is OK to
go.² She really needed to hear that. They also need to hear that you will
survive without her. I know you don¹t want to think about life without her
but she may need to hear that. The Lord will truly give you strength beyond
your imagination if you let him. Try to talk to her and remember the good
times with her. I think they really want to hear those things. I¹m really
sorry-I was in your shoes just a short time ago and it is so agonizing. Do
you have siblings? I have a brother and we really clung to each other as
well as my husband and friends. I hope you find the support you need.
Love
Shana
On 4/18/08 6:19 PM, "MeGaN pAgE" <megan2007_4208@yahoo.com> wrote:
>
>
>
> My mother found out that she had Breast Cancer in 2004. The tumors
> in her breasts were very large. She immediatley went to the doctor
> and found out that they were milignant. She was very couragous and
> decided to make any necessary medical surguries recommended from her
> amazing Oncologist, which included a double masectomy,chemotherapy,
> and also radiation. My mother is the bravest person I've ever know!!
> Almost all the women on my mother's side of the family has had Breast
> Cancer. My aunt June passed away from it many years back. She was too
> stubborn to take care of her body. She was afraid of what might be
> true.
>
> She was taking Tomoxifen for a while, and also her mental health
> medications. Unfortunatley the doctors told her that she had a 90%
> chance of the Cancer coming back. Obviously my family was holding
> onto that 10% chance of it NOT returning. I remember when I was
> outside brushing her beautiful brown hair... it just starting falling
> out & blowing threw the wind. I was so afraid for her. I didn't think
> she would be as strong and brave as she has been this long.
>
> About 1 year later after Chemotherapy and Radiation and hormone
> replacement therapy (Tamoxifen) she started loosing alot of weight.
> Much less energy than ever before. I felt as if I would loose my
> mother any moment. I never knew what to do for her. I remember the
> doctors reminding her that less stress will do wonders for the
> Cancer. Unfortunatley my family circumstances put alot of strain on
> her. I feel absolutley horrible about that. I feel as if I made the
> Cancer return.
>
> Anyways; as I sit here and try to concentrate on typing this to the
> whole world to read....my mother has returned to the hospital. She
> has been there for almost 3 weeks. I hope this makes since to you
> reading this because my mind is just absolutley flooded, I don't know
> what to think!! Her Cancer has now spread to EVERY single bone in her
> body and she has recently been fainting due to the extreme bone pain
> in her left knee. The Cancer is bluntly eating her alive. The doctors
> called me just this morning and informed me that her blood pressure
> is very low, she has no appetite and has lost 20 lbs in just 3 weeks.
> They told me that we are now taking it hour by hour. The Cancer has
> also spread to her skull and liver.
>
> It's not my mothers time yet!! She can't leave me! God doesn't want
> her yet!! I love her very much and at the same time I want God to
> take her so she won't have to live in so much darn pain. Why is this
> happening to her? Why keep trying to fight something that she won't
> win? I don't want her to struggle anymore!! She is such an amazing
> person to me and our family. I keep trying to call her all day today
> and no answer. I am so scared. Anyone that could help me get threw
> this with any suggestions or inspiring thought, I would really
> appreciate a response via-email. Megan2007_4208@yahoo.com
> <mailto:Megan2007_4208%40yahoo.com>
>
> Thank you for listening to my worry & pain.
>
>
>
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